When life gives you lemons...

"Bourbon&JellyBeans" (bourbonandjellybeans) 02/07/2017 at 20:13 • Filed to: None

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...Tell life where it can go shove it. Seriously people. I’ve seen some alarmingly depressing posts over the last few days and weeks. Not all political, mind you. Some were just coming from bad places.

I got truly awful news today. It kind of rocked my world. I felt bad for myself for a little while, but it’s time I get back on my feet. If you pity yourself, you’ve lost. You become your worst enemy. Pick yourself up, brush it off, and do it again. Try harder. Want it more. Work for it. Whether that’s a job, happiness, or making a relationship work, doesn’t matter.

Life is what you make it, folks. And you only get one. Don’t waste it moping.

Supreme Chancellor and Glorious Leader SaveTheIntegras > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:14

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Spend more time dreaming about racecars

facw > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:16

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CB > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:16

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Easier said than done.

Bourbon&JellyBeans > CB 02/07/2017 at 20:21

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Better done than not.

CB > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:26

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But... mental health doesn’t work like that? It’s not as simple as “feel better”. You have to learn coping mechanisms to deal with things (it took me a year and a half of working with a social worker for me to figure it out). For some people, they actually need medication in order to get on with their lives. Telling people to stop being sad doesn’t do anything.

Bourbon&JellyBeans > CB 02/07/2017 at 20:28

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I don’t really mean mental health. You need a doctor in that case. Real help. I meant when life gives you lemons, that type of thing. I’m all too familiar with mental illness. Runs in the family. I mean when you get a bad hand. Something shit happens.

CB > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:30

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Fair, but once again, suppose you suffer from a mental illness and shit happens: that’s gonna be rough to get through unless you’re getting help.

As well, Oppo is a relatively close community. When shit hits the fan, it’s no surprise that people gripe about it here.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 20:30

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I feel this is a prerequisite.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > facw 02/07/2017 at 20:31

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Great minds think alike! Just posted this and only saw your post just now :P

Bourbon&JellyBeans > CB 02/07/2017 at 20:36

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I’m talking about when you get dumped, you lose a job, etc. My mom has borderline personality disorder and severe depression. My grandpa had manic bipolar disorder. It’s not my intention to belittle mental illness.

LOREM IPSUM > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 21:04

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nermal > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 21:09

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Indeed. Bad stuff happens, sorry to hear about your awful news, whatever it is. What defines a person isn’t how they handle the easy things in life, but how they handle the difficult things.

Sounds like you’re in good shape with that attitude.

KFN > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 21:17

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comes over to help work on your car and only drinks beer > Bourbon&JellyBeans 02/07/2017 at 21:24

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Resilience is an underappreciated virtue...and yes, we also have a lot of work to do with actual solutions to mental illness and depression, I don’t discount that, but for those not dealing with that, we all could do with a little more resilience.

Bourbon&JellyBeans > comes over to help work on your car and only drinks beer 02/07/2017 at 21:26

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Well said.

Bourbon&JellyBeans > KFN 02/07/2017 at 21:27

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Haaaaahahaha

Bourbon&JellyBeans > LOREM IPSUM 02/07/2017 at 21:27

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Lol checkmate.